Instead of sitting down and writing a well thought out message they send a generic email that could be sent to absolutely anyone.
While casting your net wide may eventually land you a good catch it’s more likely to leave you with an empty net.
Take some time to compose your message and avoid these common mistakes.
Mailshots Some people think it’s worth sending a message to every match they receive regardless of whether they’re genuinely interested.
It’s important to bear in mind that the messages you send a match are the first impression they’re going to get of you (apart from the information contained in your profile).
I’ve read your profile, and I think you sound nice…” …is way less engaging than this: “What!! Especially online, when women maybe a little more on-guard, opening with a comment on their physical appearance runs the risk of seeming shallow and off-putting.
Besides — if they really are that pretty they’re probably hearing that from every unoriginal guy on the site, and it Sometimes, misguided men will send out first messages that read like autobiographies.
Girls on online dating sites really can get bombarded with messages, and at that point, they’re not really likely to spend more than 15 seconds quickly scanning through a message before decided to keep reading or not, . ” Later, once you guys have gone back and forth a few times, you can feel free to write longer, more involved messages.
A message that reads: “Hello, nice to “meet” you, I’m John. You might think it’s flattering, but in general women don’t like to be approached like that.